Protecting Your Marriage While Providing Elder Care in Grove City, PA

Providing elder care for an aging loved one is a major undertaking. When you make the agreement to become the full-time elderly care provider for a senior, you are, in essence, sacrificing the time and energy that you will devote to these responsibilities. Though you may enjoy providing care for your loved one, and receive a tremendous amount of satisfaction from knowing that she is able to remain comfortably in her own home as she ages, it is important that you understand what you are putting into this relationship. Being an elder care provider means that you are taking time, energy and other resources away from the other elements of your life. One of the primary aspects of life that elder care providers often report is most damaged when one partner enters into an elder care arrangement is marriage. It is very easy to fall into the habit of taking out your frustration, exhaustion and stress on your partner, or even completely ignoring your partner without realizing it. Your marriage is a critical aspect of your life, and it is vital that you seek to protect this relationship while also being a caring and effective elder care provider.

Elder Care in Grove City, PASome of the ways that you can protect your marital providing elder care include:

  • Keep your cell phone with you at all times and send frequent text messages to your partner throughout the day
  • Take the time each morning to pack a lunch for your partner to bring to work, and include a heartfelt note.
  • Make several homemade meals every weekend and store them in the freezer with a note on how to reheat them. This way if you are not available to make dinner one night, your partner still has the opportunity to eat a meal that you made
  • Make the commitment to spend at least one hour every day with your partner. Establish a rule that you are not allowed to discuss your elder care responsibilities during this time.
  • Choose one day per week, or one day every two weeks, that you will make date night. Ask another family member to care for your aging loved one, or hire a home care services companion for that time so that you can enjoy quality time with your partner.
  • Make plans for a special getaway, date or excursion. Even if these plans are several weeks in advance, let yourself be excited about them and when they come, give yourself permission to really enjoy them without worrying about your loved one.
  • Keep the lines of communication open. Know that your partner likely has his own feelings about your elder care responsibilities, and give him the opportunity to discuss them with you. Don’t shut him out, or make him feel guilty if he misses you.
  • Make it a point to tell your partner that you love him, hug him and kissed him every day. Just taking the moment to pause and express your affection can make an incredible difference and how both if you feel throughout the day.

The caregivers at CareGivers Plus are available to talk with you and your family about all of your home care needs. CareGivers Plus is an elder care agency providing quality and affordable home care in Grove City, PA and the surrounding areas. Call 724-638-7110 for more information.

About Robert Devine

Robert Devine is Owner and Administrator at Caregivers Plus Home Health Care of Hermitage, PA.

Whether it’s conversation and company, or just eating a meal together, having someone to sit and visit with can help make for a happier, healthier life.

Caregivers Plus has been operating as a locally owned family-operated home care agency in Mercer County since 1994.